Talking With Women

First thing you need to know is women make their own decisions.

So, don’t look for a guide on how a woman will want to talk to you, or worse, how to make them chase you.

But seriously, how do you talk with women? Just talk to them like a normal person. Okay, let me explain it a little more.

The way I talk to a guy is the same way I talk to a woman.

You might ask me, “but that will not result in the guy being in a relationship with the woman, right?”

Yes, you might be right. Because whenever I talk to a woman, my intent is just to talk to them and have fun talking with them.

So, how do you make your intent clean? By making yourself clean and respecting woman.

I remember saying to my female friends that if any of their guy friends are hitting on them, then they’re not real friends, they’re just there to wait for an opportunity. Which I consider being disgusting, I apologize if you’re one of those guys, it’s just my opinion.

Most of my conversations lead to nowhere.

But if it clicked, if I liked the girl after knowing her, then I would be honest with her. Either I ask her to go to lunch, or a date. If she said “No”, then try to accept it and it’s still fine to have conversations with her.

Let’s say you tried to talk to girls, and they acted like you’re a guy with an ill intent towards them even if your intent is to only talk to them, then I suggest you need to adjust your overall mindset, tonal, body language and more. We will discuss this topic in the future, for now let’s put it on the back burner.

So does it mean that I get to talk with every woman?

The answer is No. I told you in the beginning “women makes their own decisions”, if for whatever reason they don’t want to talk with you then you need to accept that and move on.

Remember that doesn’t make them a bad person, I’m sure there are people in your life who you don’t want to have a conversation with.

Is there any difference in talking to a woman compared to a woman you love?

Yes! So, what’s the difference then?

Before I explain the difference, I just want to put out that second thing you need to know is that you need to be congruent with your feelings.

Let’s run a scenario 1 where you like a girl and she also likes you back, how do you think the way you treat her will differ?

You’ll be more sweet, thoughtful, trying your best to make her happy and many more.

Scenario 2 is when you like her but she doesn’t like you back, can you still be this sweet and thoughtful guy towards her?

My answer would be Yes, but don’t break boundaries. If it’s in your nature to be sweet and thoughtful to girls you like, then be that guy. (Remember: be congruent)

If she verbally or at least let you know in any way that she doesn’t want to be treated that way, then respect her boundaries.

Scenario 3 is when you’re fine with her and she’s also fine with having conversations with you.

Then have a conversation. You need not be sweet when you don’t feel like it.

So, when should you be sweet to her? Depends on what you’re feeling, always remember to be congruent with your feelings.

The more honest and congruent you are to what you feel, the better you become.

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